How to handle Vaginismus

Vaginismus is an involuntary squeeze or spasm of muscles around the vagina when something is entering it. This could be a tampon or a penis.

A lot of factors could lead to the development of vaginismus but generally, it is the fear of having sex due to poor sexual orientation, bad sexual experience, fear of pregnancy, damage to vagina, infections or Vulvodynia.

 Vulvodynia refers to the sensation of burning, soreness, super-sensitive and painful to touch vulva in the absence of any obvious skin condition or infection.

Vulvodynia degrades into vaginismus because of this burning/stinging pain you experienced in the first time a penis or finger touches the vulva, your MIND and body have developed a response against penetration. Your mind is telling you – This is going to be painful and your vaginal muscles begin to contract to protect the vagina from intercourse pain. 

It is important to note that vaginismus is not triggered deliberately or intentionally by the woman. It happens involuntarily without their intentional control and often without any awareness on their part. This reflex can be compared to the response of the eye shutting when an object comes towards it.

Treatment for vaginismus will largely depend on what’s causing it. Treatment should start with education and counseling, progressive desensitization. Helping patients to understand their sexual anatomy, their pain and the processes their body is going through. The idea is to get them comfortable with insertion

1) Ensure that you are adequately lubricated before anything goes down there.

2) If you got bruised on the inside because of one reason or the other this happens more often than we imagine take a pause with the sex, wait around at least two weeks for it to heal, meaning no intercourse including fingering in that period of time. Meanwhile, taking more vitamin C helps.

3) Know your body anatomy, identify the particular muscles that are contracting to close up the area and learn to Identify and selectively control the muscles that cause penetration tightness.

4) Try to insert small object like a finger, tampons, Dilators, etc. to trigger pelvic muscle reactions/contractions now try to do to reverse Kegels (pelvic floor relaxation exercises )

Kegels Squeeze the same muscles you use to stop the flow of urine when urinating. Hold for 2 to 10 seconds. Relax the muscles. Reverse Kegels is a deliberate attempt to relax these same muscles.

5) Retraining the pelvic floor to eliminate involuntary muscle reactions that produce tightness or pain.

6) Last advice to women with this condition would be to seek the help of a sex therapist or some other medical professional and don’t get discouraged with your treatment efforts; improvement may come slowly.

It is important to note that your health is very important you definitely need to see a doctor because online diagnosis is worthless and should be taken lightly.

Anything else you read or hear either here or anywhere is a mere guess.

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